I have been hunting... since November..
And so far - I've found none..
It's actually a risk - because we won't know for sure how she will be when my baby comes. But as of the moment, I am getting stressed that I can't find one.
I have been calling agencies - I have been interviewing left and right, but so far - those that I have interviewed are, well - not so good! There was one that sounded really good on paper, and when I asked for her previous employers - she gave me names, well known names actually. I was taken aback honestly because I had connections to these names that she gave me! One was the boss of a friend and the other was the sister in law of a friend. I told the yaya to make sure that she gives me the correct information because I can confirm with her previous employers - and she was confident! She had the following informations:
Age: 40
Employer #1 - Boss of the friend
Stayed with her for 2 years
Left because when she came back from her vacation, there was already a replacement.
Employer #2 - Sister in law of a friend
Stayed with her for 5 years
Left because the child was too much for her to handle already
Employer #3 - Wife of the Nueva Ecija governor
Stayed with her for 2 years
Left because when she came back from her vacation, there was already a replacement.
That same night, I called my friend who's boss was Yaya's former employer. At 10am the next morning, I got a call from my friend. According to her boss - Yaya is not very nice, she works okay but has a habit of bad mouthing her former employers and Yaya lied when she said that she stayed 2 years with her - apparently, Yaya left after one year. Yaya asked for a vacation and NEVER came back - the boss learned that Yaya went to work for Employer #2 already. When my friend asked for Yaya's age - I said 40 - she laughed! Because apparently, two years ago - Yaya was already 40!
After a few weeks, my friend whose sister in law was Employer #2 sent me a text message saying that Yaya is not so okay, and that Yaya is very materialistic.
Fail diba??
As for the others, well - they seemed okay BUT I haven't met them personally so, I can't say if they're okay or not. Agencies have this habit of forcing me to decide ASAP. Which I am not keen on doing so.. I believe that if its meant to be - its meant to be.
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Monday, January 31, 2011
Monday, November 22, 2010
Sigh...
Been experiencing numbness and tingling of the hands - often.
I get scared because I have a hard time clenching my fist when I wake up in the morning!
Being pregnant is NOT at all easy... :(
Baby - I hope you don't give Mommy any headaches - Mommy is sacrificing a LOT for you!!
I was paranoid, so I texted my doctor asking if there was a remedy for the tingling/numbing feeling of my hands - she replied saying that it was normal and that there was no medicine for it. Sigh...
My belly is getting bigger and bigger.. rounder and rounder by the day!! its kinda hard to move around.
I get scared because I have a hard time clenching my fist when I wake up in the morning!
Being pregnant is NOT at all easy... :(
Baby - I hope you don't give Mommy any headaches - Mommy is sacrificing a LOT for you!!
I was paranoid, so I texted my doctor asking if there was a remedy for the tingling/numbing feeling of my hands - she replied saying that it was normal and that there was no medicine for it. Sigh...
My belly is getting bigger and bigger.. rounder and rounder by the day!! its kinda hard to move around.
Monday, November 15, 2010
The CONS of being pregnant..
Heartburn
It was during the early 2000's that I learned and felt the terrors of a heartburn. I initially thought that the pain I was experiencing was a heart attack! This was because I felt sharp pains on my chest! But when I told my mom about it - she told me what I might be feeling was - heartburn, she then gave me a medicine called Pepcid AC, and it worked wonderfully on me. Since then, every time I felt the heartburn - I popped the pill. It has been a while since I last felt a heartburn. But when I got pregnant - it was often. The thing was - I wasn't sure I could take Pepcid AC. I asked my doctor and she said it was safe to take TUMS. I never liked TUMS, because the local version had no flavor, thus the taste was a bit yucky - to think that you had to chew it! Yikes! As I was walking in Shoppesville, I remembered that there were stores that sold PX goods, I went in on each store asking for TUMS and I finally found a store that carried flavored TUMS! I bought one and since then, heartburn wasn't as stressful as before. Just chew a flavored TUMS and voila - heartburn, gone!
Leg Cramps
I think I am one of the few who experienced this early on. As early as 16 weeks, I felt leg crams while asleep. I would wake up in a jolt because I felt my leg cramping. Good thing, I learned how to counter the leg cramp. During pre-pregnancy, I automatically knew that my leg was cramping because I didn't take as much water during the day. But during my pregnancy, I was drinking water like crazy! So I got confused - I ended up drinking so much water that I wake up in the middle of the night wanting to pee! This in turn interrupted my sleep cycle! Turns out, this too was normal. Sigh..
Numbing of the hands..
I got really scared one night, because I suddenly felt a tingling numbing sensation on both my hands. You see, I have a habit sleeping with my hands above my head - then one night.. I suddenly felt the sensation. I panicked awoke and started to wring my hands! It took a while for the numbness to disappear, and when it did - I was already wide awake. I couldn't go back to sleep! I was so paranoid that the numbness will come back! It took me a while to get back to sleep and when I did, I felt it again. I searched online and found out that this was - NORMAL. Sheesh!!
It was during the early 2000's that I learned and felt the terrors of a heartburn. I initially thought that the pain I was experiencing was a heart attack! This was because I felt sharp pains on my chest! But when I told my mom about it - she told me what I might be feeling was - heartburn, she then gave me a medicine called Pepcid AC, and it worked wonderfully on me. Since then, every time I felt the heartburn - I popped the pill. It has been a while since I last felt a heartburn. But when I got pregnant - it was often. The thing was - I wasn't sure I could take Pepcid AC. I asked my doctor and she said it was safe to take TUMS. I never liked TUMS, because the local version had no flavor, thus the taste was a bit yucky - to think that you had to chew it! Yikes! As I was walking in Shoppesville, I remembered that there were stores that sold PX goods, I went in on each store asking for TUMS and I finally found a store that carried flavored TUMS! I bought one and since then, heartburn wasn't as stressful as before. Just chew a flavored TUMS and voila - heartburn, gone!
Leg Cramps
I think I am one of the few who experienced this early on. As early as 16 weeks, I felt leg crams while asleep. I would wake up in a jolt because I felt my leg cramping. Good thing, I learned how to counter the leg cramp. During pre-pregnancy, I automatically knew that my leg was cramping because I didn't take as much water during the day. But during my pregnancy, I was drinking water like crazy! So I got confused - I ended up drinking so much water that I wake up in the middle of the night wanting to pee! This in turn interrupted my sleep cycle! Turns out, this too was normal. Sigh..
Numbing of the hands..
I got really scared one night, because I suddenly felt a tingling numbing sensation on both my hands. You see, I have a habit sleeping with my hands above my head - then one night.. I suddenly felt the sensation. I panicked awoke and started to wring my hands! It took a while for the numbness to disappear, and when it did - I was already wide awake. I couldn't go back to sleep! I was so paranoid that the numbness will come back! It took me a while to get back to sleep and when I did, I felt it again. I searched online and found out that this was - NORMAL. Sheesh!!
Saturday, September 25, 2010
Attending weddings...
I am not one who likes to dress up. I am one who loves to eat delicious meals at wedding receptions. So, see my frustration to dress up - especially when I'm four months pregnant!
Pre-pregnancy, I had these three dresses that I loved to alternated. Unfortunately none of these three dresses fit me now. I am four months pregnant, my body is in an awkward stage - unsure if the bump is fat or baby belly.
So at tonight's wedding reception of my Panget's cousin - I wore a long dress. The dress is actually not meant for a formal setting, but good for me - it can pass for a formal wear.
It's so hard to dress up while you're pregnant. It seems like you have to shop for 'fat/pregnant' clothes every now and then!
I hate shopping pa naman....
*Sigh...*
Pre-pregnancy, I had these three dresses that I loved to alternated. Unfortunately none of these three dresses fit me now. I am four months pregnant, my body is in an awkward stage - unsure if the bump is fat or baby belly.
So at tonight's wedding reception of my Panget's cousin - I wore a long dress. The dress is actually not meant for a formal setting, but good for me - it can pass for a formal wear.
It's so hard to dress up while you're pregnant. It seems like you have to shop for 'fat/pregnant' clothes every now and then!
I hate shopping pa naman....
*Sigh...*
Monday, August 30, 2010
Helper woes while pregnant...
When I was in Grade School, all my friends and I could talk about was when we'll reach High School and stop studying. When I reached High School the topic shifted to boys and dating. When I got to college, almost the same topic was discussed who was dating whom, what careers we would eventually go to. After college, we discussed about settling down and about the future.
When I got married, the number one topic of discussion - the house help.
There are people who are lucky to find that perfect helper that will stay with them for a long time, while some are unlucky and keep changing from time to time. It is stressful because managing a household is not easy. Believe me, it looks easy but it's not.
This brings me to my recent stressful moment. Helper woes.
You see, I have this helper who is very lazy. I already made out a list of things to do, printed them on paper and even laminated it for her so she can browse on it from time to time. But she doesn't care, she just does her own thing. She was with me for seven month. Until I really got tired of reminding her of things to do - I had to let her go. But before she left, I got to speak to the sister of a friend's helper - the sister of the friend's helper was looking for a job (she was based in Bacolod), and thus I asked to speak to her, to interview her a bit. I asked if she was masipag, and she said yes, I asked if she could cook, she said a little, I then told her her salary and that there's a day-off of only once a month and I do not allow overnights day-offs, she agreed. After the conversation - my friend then sent money for their boat fare and their 1k salary advance. After a few days - she got to Manila, I had to pick her up at my friend's house. She seemed really nice and looked decent, although I doubted her age, she said that she was 39 but she looked older than 39, but I didn't mind this little detail. I was more concerned on how she'd work. For a week, my mom's helper was with her to help her out and guide her on what she has to do.
My mom's helper who has been with us for about ten years told me in confidence that my helper has told her that she wished that they were together, and that my mom's helper doesn't leave her alone. This made me wonder, why she would say that. After a few days with me, when I was about to go to work, she asked if she could make an advance on her salary. This made me laugh, I mean - barely a week with me and she's asking for a salary advance? I then told her about my policy on not granting salary advances, she then told me that she just asked me, she was taking a chance that I might say yes. I also lent her a cellphone so I can contact her in case of emergencies, and so that her family can contact her too! I gave her a load good for one month also, so she can make calls right?
After a few week, when I reminded her to always have breakfast prepared for my Panget, she burst into tears and told me that she was having a hard time cleaning the whole house and that she was takot to cook for for us because we might not like what she has cooked. She then proceeded to tell me that she didn't expect to work for a Chinese couple. This irked me because what the hell is the difference working for a Pinoy, American and Chinese couple? If she was looking for work, whatever race her employers was should not matter right? But I guess for her, it mattered heavily. She then told me that she's feeling numbness in her arms from working all day. First of all, I NEVER told her to clean the whole house everyday, in fact - I have a laminated list of things to do everyday, once a week and once a month! Where did that come from? When everything was settled and cleared, she then looked happier and normal.
Then come last week, she asked me if there was 'something' in our house, because she felt that there was. She was cleaning our bathroom one day and she said that she felt something touch her waist. I then told her that it might have been hunger or paranoia because if there was indeed something, my two previous helpers would have mentioned it, my mom's helper would have told me too.
Last Saturday during dinner, she went up to me and told me that she wanted to leave already. This was because she felt something and was really afraid. She then told me that the night before, she saw something - a black shadow going up the stairs. She said that she couldn't sleep and that she has been bothered for a while. I am not the type to force the issue, if she didn't want to work anymore, by all means go! She was convinced to go, she even said that her brother will pick her up the next morning. She then called her sister, my friend's helper - her sister then asked to speak to me, she asked me if I had a problem with my helper. I told her that I do not have any problems, it was her sister that had issues with the work and the house, she then asked me if it was okay to still take her, I said yes of course but it seemed like her sister was convinced to leave already. I then told my helper that my mom suggested for me to buy a radio for her to use since the house was quiet during the day. After saying that she told me that was willing to work again, and so I accepted.
Just before lunch, I received a call from my friend. She told me that my helper spoke to her sister and told her that she didn't have any food to eat for the past two weeks. What the hell?! My friend said that she called me so that I could fix whatever issue there was with me and my helper. I thank this friend of mine, THANKS S!!
I was honestly pissed, I then confronted my helper. I told her what was this she was telling her sister that she didn't have food to eat. She then burst into tears telling me that she wasn't eating because she didn't know what she was allowed to get frozen chicken & meat from the freezer and veggies from the refrigerator. I was very much irritated because all of my helpers knew (because I told them from Day 1) that they could get anything from the fridge. She said that she didn't recall me saying it - which was honestly bull because she remembers me asking her what she wanted to eat! Why would I ask her what she wanted to eat when I didn't want to feed her in the first place? When her sister would call her to ask what she had for lunch, she tells her that she hasn't eaten lunch, of course - her sister will get worried right? I then asked her why she didn't eat - she then tells me that she has lost her appetite after doing her chores - now, is that my fault?
I was really worked up and so I asked her, if she was just making an excuse to leave her work, because I don't buy those excuses - she could just tell me flat out if she wanted to leave and I will let her leave! Why make an excuse to leave right? She then said that she wanted to continue to work, but she had to call her sister first to ask if she will stay or leave. Oh my gosh, by this time - I was pissed. If she had to ask her sister EVERY little detail, then she might as well ask her sister for her salary! I mean why ask her sister's opinion? Couldn't she decide on her own? My gosh! I then waited for about 15 minutes while they spoke - her sister told her to work till she reaches a month so that she can at least get part of her salary, to which I agreed. I would let her go easy because I advanced her part of her salary and the boat fare, how was I supposed to get those back right?
I have to say, I treat my helpers very humanely. I give then more than enough food, they share what my Panget and I eat. I encourage them to take breaks and even tell them to watch TV at night. I speak to them in a very soft tone using 'po' for elder helpers. I never raise my voice to them and when I need something, I ask them nicely with a smile and say thank you after. I have never threatened them nor have I hurt them in any way. I do not understand what this current helper's problem is, I am honestly hurt and confused. I mean, it would be okay if ever I did not give her food, but I always reminded her to take food from the fridge, I even have a stash of sardines, instant noodles, corned beef for her in case she gets hungry.
Hiring help is so stressful, what more in the coming months when I'll be looking for a good and capable yaya. Will they get along? Hahaha!!
These woes of ours tell us that we're in a certain stage in life. Right now, I'm at the stage of newlyweds looking for good help! hahaha...
Oh yeah, I asked her real age - she's 42.
When I got married, the number one topic of discussion - the house help.
There are people who are lucky to find that perfect helper that will stay with them for a long time, while some are unlucky and keep changing from time to time. It is stressful because managing a household is not easy. Believe me, it looks easy but it's not.
This brings me to my recent stressful moment. Helper woes.
You see, I have this helper who is very lazy. I already made out a list of things to do, printed them on paper and even laminated it for her so she can browse on it from time to time. But she doesn't care, she just does her own thing. She was with me for seven month. Until I really got tired of reminding her of things to do - I had to let her go. But before she left, I got to speak to the sister of a friend's helper - the sister of the friend's helper was looking for a job (she was based in Bacolod), and thus I asked to speak to her, to interview her a bit. I asked if she was masipag, and she said yes, I asked if she could cook, she said a little, I then told her her salary and that there's a day-off of only once a month and I do not allow overnights day-offs, she agreed. After the conversation - my friend then sent money for their boat fare and their 1k salary advance. After a few days - she got to Manila, I had to pick her up at my friend's house. She seemed really nice and looked decent, although I doubted her age, she said that she was 39 but she looked older than 39, but I didn't mind this little detail. I was more concerned on how she'd work. For a week, my mom's helper was with her to help her out and guide her on what she has to do.
My mom's helper who has been with us for about ten years told me in confidence that my helper has told her that she wished that they were together, and that my mom's helper doesn't leave her alone. This made me wonder, why she would say that. After a few days with me, when I was about to go to work, she asked if she could make an advance on her salary. This made me laugh, I mean - barely a week with me and she's asking for a salary advance? I then told her about my policy on not granting salary advances, she then told me that she just asked me, she was taking a chance that I might say yes. I also lent her a cellphone so I can contact her in case of emergencies, and so that her family can contact her too! I gave her a load good for one month also, so she can make calls right?
After a few week, when I reminded her to always have breakfast prepared for my Panget, she burst into tears and told me that she was having a hard time cleaning the whole house and that she was takot to cook for for us because we might not like what she has cooked. She then proceeded to tell me that she didn't expect to work for a Chinese couple. This irked me because what the hell is the difference working for a Pinoy, American and Chinese couple? If she was looking for work, whatever race her employers was should not matter right? But I guess for her, it mattered heavily. She then told me that she's feeling numbness in her arms from working all day. First of all, I NEVER told her to clean the whole house everyday, in fact - I have a laminated list of things to do everyday, once a week and once a month! Where did that come from? When everything was settled and cleared, she then looked happier and normal.
Then come last week, she asked me if there was 'something' in our house, because she felt that there was. She was cleaning our bathroom one day and she said that she felt something touch her waist. I then told her that it might have been hunger or paranoia because if there was indeed something, my two previous helpers would have mentioned it, my mom's helper would have told me too.
Last Saturday during dinner, she went up to me and told me that she wanted to leave already. This was because she felt something and was really afraid. She then told me that the night before, she saw something - a black shadow going up the stairs. She said that she couldn't sleep and that she has been bothered for a while. I am not the type to force the issue, if she didn't want to work anymore, by all means go! She was convinced to go, she even said that her brother will pick her up the next morning. She then called her sister, my friend's helper - her sister then asked to speak to me, she asked me if I had a problem with my helper. I told her that I do not have any problems, it was her sister that had issues with the work and the house, she then asked me if it was okay to still take her, I said yes of course but it seemed like her sister was convinced to leave already. I then told my helper that my mom suggested for me to buy a radio for her to use since the house was quiet during the day. After saying that she told me that was willing to work again, and so I accepted.
Just before lunch, I received a call from my friend. She told me that my helper spoke to her sister and told her that she didn't have any food to eat for the past two weeks. What the hell?! My friend said that she called me so that I could fix whatever issue there was with me and my helper. I thank this friend of mine, THANKS S!!
I was honestly pissed, I then confronted my helper. I told her what was this she was telling her sister that she didn't have food to eat. She then burst into tears telling me that she wasn't eating because she didn't know what she was allowed to get frozen chicken & meat from the freezer and veggies from the refrigerator. I was very much irritated because all of my helpers knew (because I told them from Day 1) that they could get anything from the fridge. She said that she didn't recall me saying it - which was honestly bull because she remembers me asking her what she wanted to eat! Why would I ask her what she wanted to eat when I didn't want to feed her in the first place? When her sister would call her to ask what she had for lunch, she tells her that she hasn't eaten lunch, of course - her sister will get worried right? I then asked her why she didn't eat - she then tells me that she has lost her appetite after doing her chores - now, is that my fault?
I was really worked up and so I asked her, if she was just making an excuse to leave her work, because I don't buy those excuses - she could just tell me flat out if she wanted to leave and I will let her leave! Why make an excuse to leave right? She then said that she wanted to continue to work, but she had to call her sister first to ask if she will stay or leave. Oh my gosh, by this time - I was pissed. If she had to ask her sister EVERY little detail, then she might as well ask her sister for her salary! I mean why ask her sister's opinion? Couldn't she decide on her own? My gosh! I then waited for about 15 minutes while they spoke - her sister told her to work till she reaches a month so that she can at least get part of her salary, to which I agreed. I would let her go easy because I advanced her part of her salary and the boat fare, how was I supposed to get those back right?
I have to say, I treat my helpers very humanely. I give then more than enough food, they share what my Panget and I eat. I encourage them to take breaks and even tell them to watch TV at night. I speak to them in a very soft tone using 'po' for elder helpers. I never raise my voice to them and when I need something, I ask them nicely with a smile and say thank you after. I have never threatened them nor have I hurt them in any way. I do not understand what this current helper's problem is, I am honestly hurt and confused. I mean, it would be okay if ever I did not give her food, but I always reminded her to take food from the fridge, I even have a stash of sardines, instant noodles, corned beef for her in case she gets hungry.
Hiring help is so stressful, what more in the coming months when I'll be looking for a good and capable yaya. Will they get along? Hahaha!!
These woes of ours tell us that we're in a certain stage in life. Right now, I'm at the stage of newlyweds looking for good help! hahaha...
Oh yeah, I asked her real age - she's 42.
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